How to Choose the Perfect Wedding Songs

Tuesday, June 4th, 2024

Congratulations on your Engagement! I’m thrilled to share some tips I have given to my couples on choosing the perfect wedding songs.

As a multi-award winning wedding singer with numerous years experience in serenading couples on their wedding day, I’ve learned a thing or two about what makes a soundtrack truly unforgettable. Whether you want an intimate ceremony or grand celebration, the right music will set the tone and create lasting memories. I’ve also used these tips in creating a playlist for my own wedding.

Reflect on Your Love Story

If I’m honest the weddings I remember the most are the ones that reflect the couple the most and allow guests into the couples own unique love story. Think about songs that have meaning to you both, for example there may have been a song playing on your first date, your first dance, the first concert you went to, something that played when you got engaged.

These personal touches can make your wedding uniquely yours. One of my best friends had a Taylor Swift songs as her walking down the aisle song for lockdown, with her getting married in Toronto during lockdown we were unable to attend so as a gift to her and her husband I had the lyrics printed in a large frame and sent to her, she says when she sees the frame it reminds her of that moment.

Tip: When I was selecting my own songs I created a playlist in Spotify of songs that meant something to us, I’ll be honest it’s taken us months to pick our first dance but we now have the perfect song for us! You may have some random songs in there but it’s a huge help and sometimes can prompt another song you would never have thought of.

Consider the Atmosphere

Different parts of your wedding day call for different musical vibes.

Ceremony – Opt for softer, more romantic music. Acoustic versions or modern songs always go down well for a ceremony. *Remember for a registrar you cannot have any religious connotations in your songs, a live singer however can change up the words! E.G Lord can be changed to Love. You will need an entrance songs, two songs for signing and a final song.

Cocktail Hour – Light, Upbeat background music works best as guests like to mingle and speak to the happy couple.

Reception – Mix it up! Mix in a variety of genres to keep all guests entertained and on the dance floor.

Tip: Balance is key! A good mix of slow and fast songs, old and new hits, will cater to all ages and keep the energy up throughout the day.

First Dance

Your first dance is one of the most anticipated moments of the evening…no pressure!! Choose a song that resonates with you as a couple. It does not have to be a conventional love song, it just needs to be meaningful to you both. Remember it’s YOUR song not anyone else’s.

Tip: Practice dancing to these songs a few times before the big day. It will help you feel more comfortable.

Guest Requests

Something I do with my couples for example for the Cocktail Hours is use the song choices as a guide, for example a couple may love rock music but their guests may be really enjoying the acoustic pop tracks, in my experience my couples prefer me to use my expertise and go with the tracks people are enjoying then loose the vibe, this can also include listening to guest requests.

An idea for your reception when sending out your invitations, include in your RSVPs song requests, this gives your entertainment an idea of the collection of taste.
Tip: You can then work with your DJ or Band to filter the requests, ensuring they fit the mood and your playlists flows.

Trust your Wedding Singer/ DJ

As a seasoned Wedding Singer, I can’t stress enough the importance of trusting your music professional. Share your vision with them and your preferences, but be open to their suggestions. They do this day in and day out and know what works or what doesn’t. You may also find if you say you love a certain song that your singer can then suggest other songs like the one you love! Experienced professionals know how to read the crowd and adjust the music accordingly.

Tip: I offer an initial consultation where couples can speak to me about their ideas, they can also go through with me in this time or in their final details meeting their do-not-play list.


If you can it is always worth attending a live performance of your chosen singer/ DJ. Wedding Fairs are a great way to see this. I often advertise on my social media pages where you can publicly see me perform. Also, at wedding fairs if you have questions you can then ask!

Tip: If you have a live performer consider the acoustics of your venue and the impact this may have, for example stone floors give amazing acoustics for singers, a bit like how we all sound like Celine Dion in the shower!

Create a Lasting Memory

Finally, don’t forget the exit song. The last song of the night should leave your guests with a lasting impression. Whether it’s a high-energy anthem that has everyone dancing or a romantic ballad that ends the night on a tender note, make it something memorable. I’ve seen Sweet Caroline, Mr Brightside and Angels done so the possibilities are endless!

Choosing the perfect wedding songs is a blend of personal taste, thoughtful planning, and trusting your musical professionals. By keeping the tips above in mind you will be well on your way to creating magical memories through music on your special day. Remember, the best wedding songs are the ones that make you and your guests feel something special, creating moments you will cherish for a lifetime.

You can find ideas for wedding music on my social media pages and I have song lists on joy webpage. If you have questions feel free to drop me a message and I’ll be happy to help!


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