Planning on Writing Your Own Vows? Here are our Top Tips

For some people, creative writing comes easily, so writing vows should be easy right? Actually, even for the people who are good at writing, your own vows can be a difficult task.

For everyone else writing anything can be pretty scary! Plus you’ve got to read it out in public. Not easy. Maybe you’re the one who suggested writing your own vows, or maybe it’s something your partner wanted and fills you with dread.

Not to worry, we’re here to give you all the advice you need before you sit down and write the perfect heartfelt vows for your wedding ceremony.

Why write your own wedding vows?

This is a very personal decision for many couples. You might decide you want to keep it simple and stick to the traditional vows. However, it’s also nice for both partners to really personalise the wedding ceremony.

Your own vows are a way to celebrate the reasons you love your partner, whilst allowing you to incorporate what’s important to you. There’s definitely a balance to be found, romantic but not fake. As long as your vows come from the heart they won’t be trite. You want people to get an insight into why you love your partner, at the same time as letting your partner know why you want to marry them. 

10 Top tips to writing your own vows

Well here you are, our best tips for writing your own wedding vows. Remember, don’t panic! Calmly read through this guide and use it as a step-by-step plan to writing your own wedding vows. 

 

1. Get started early

This one should be a no-brainer, but we’re putting it in at the start just in case! Don’t, we repeat, don’t leave your vows until the last minute. If you want to feel stressed and write something clearly rushed then that’s the way to go about it. Yes, you might be better at improv than reading from a sheet, but your vows will be more polished if you have plenty of time to practice what you’re going to say.

2. Have a discussion with your partner first

You’re not writing vows in isolation. Your partner is also in the same boat. If you don’t discuss the scope of your vows, you may find one of you has written half a novel and the other something shorter than the weekly shopping list.

Agree on the approximate length and the tone you’re going for. You might both want to go for funny vows or make them really sentimental. Whatever you decide you definitely should talk to your partner first. 

3. Come back to your drafts

There’s a writing process you can follow. First, start with a rough list of what you want to include. Then come back to the list and turn it into paragraphs. Then leave your first draft for a few days. When you come back to it you’ll have fresh eyes and you’ll be more critical. Don’t be afraid to have multiple drafts or versions to pick between.

4. Get real

You need to be heartfelt, or what’s the point in writing your own vows? Think about why you want to marry your partner, what you love about them. Sitting with the lads or your bridesmaids and spit-balling ideas is great, but make sure you take time to sit alone with your thoughts before you write your vows.

5. Make realistic promises

One of the key elements of your vows is promising things. You can take this however you want, you could promise to always be faithful but you can also promise not to hog the covers! Ideally, you want a mixture of genuine promises and maybe some more frivolous ones. You’re both going to be looking back on this for a long time, so make sure all your promises are realistic and ones you can keep.

6. Reassure your partner

Everyone get’s pre-wedding jitters, it’s normal. One of the best things after experiencing those moments is when you’re up at the alter and your partner says everything you needed to hear. Reassure them that you’re going to be there for them through anything.

7. Think about your timing

Ok, so we don’t want a six-volume novel series, do we? Think about your guests a little at this point. You should be able to get everything you need to across without taking hours. The best way to do this is by keeping any anecdotes short and prioritising what you want to say.

Most vows only take around one minute of time to say. Of course, this is something to discuss with your partner. If you’re desperate for longer vows at least make sure they’re going to do the same!

8. Don’t be afraid to use humour

Weddings are an incredibly emotional experience. They can also come with a lot of nervous energy. So a great thing to include in your vows is a little bit of humour. You need to be careful though, don’t tell inappropriate stories about your partner in the middle of your wedding! Aim for gentle humour to make your partner and your guests laugh.

9. Be specific with your anecdotes

Specific anecdotes and compliments are always nice to receive. Your partner may not know the exact moment you fell for them, or that cute noise they make when they sleep that makes you love them more. Think about something small you love about them and use this time to shine a light on it to make them feel special.

10. Read them to a friend

The final step once you’ve written your vows is getting some feedback. We suggest picking one friend you trust and reading your vows to them. They can give you feedback and it’s also a chance for you to practice reading in front of someone. Plus if you just choose one friend everyone else gets to hear them for the first time on the day.

That’s it! We hope you’ve enjoyed our tips for writing your vows and let us know how you get on! Get in touch with us on our social media links below so we can hear about your own wedding vow experiences.

8 Things Brides Wish They’d Known Before the Wedding

 

 

Getting married can prove to be an absolute whirlwind of emotions. From the stresses of planning to the sheer joy and love you feel when walking down that aisle, it truly is one of the most memorable days of your life. 

So, before your big day comes around, it’s always useful to get some hints and tips from those who have been there and done it. To help you, here’s 8 things brides wish they’d known before the wedding…

 

That last minute facial isn’t always a good idea

What’s more relaxing before your big day than a soothing facial, right? Well, unfortunately, that’s not always the case. Treatments don’t always bode well with skin, leaving some brides with unfortunate rashes and pimples. So, take it from them and steer clear of trying any new beauty regimes too close to your big day. 

8 Things Brides Wish They’d Known Before the Wedding

Taking on too many DIY projects isn’t always easy

Ok, so you might have a Pinterest board just brimming with DIY wedding decor that you can’t wait to get started on. However, taking too much on beforehand is something many brides have lived to regret. Things may seem simple and cost-effective at the start, but if you take too much on you could risk burning out and having to pay for alternatives in the end anyway. Just be wary of this and plan your time effectively if you’re set on doing lots of things yourself.

 

Remember to spend time with your loved ones

Your actual wedding day can fly by in a flash. It’s one of the most special days of your life yet often the quickest. When looking back on their big days, many brides regret taking the time out to spend quality time with their guests. 

So, make sure you take the time to really be in the moment. If something goes wrong, don’t spend precious minutes or even hours chasing a solution or stressing. Things happen and you’ll regret wasted time so be in the moment and lap up every minute with those important to you. 

8 Things Brides Wish They’d Known Before the Wedding

It won’t be 100% perfect

Well what is? There’s always going to be something, whether that’s uncle Roy getting a bit too merry during the toasts or timings having to be adjusted. Don’t get stressed, think about the real reason you’re all there. You’re marrying the love of your life – so what if the centrepieces aren’t quite the shade of blue you chose in the shop.

 

DON’T check the weather!

As UK residents, we know that rain is a possibility no matter what time of year it is. Your phone’s weather app is not your friend in the days leading up to your wedding so don’t touch it. Remember that come rain or shine, you will have a ball once the day comes around. 

Yes, nobody wants to get rained on but the emotions you will feel on that day will make you see past the weather – good or bad. So, there’s no point in getting in a pickle two days before when you see that sideways rain is forecast…

 

Spare a thought for your guests 

It’s easy to get swept into the fine details like the shade of pink you’re choosing for the favour bags or whether you should opt for curls instead of an up-do. This is understandable as this is meant to be one of the most special days of your life so it’s ok to get stuck into the fine details. 

However, when planning, it’s easy to forget about the people that are going to share your day with you. Remember, when it comes to guests, little touches go a long way. Think about ways you can make their day more memorable or enjoyable. Midnight snacks for those still partying, flip-flops for the ladies so they can continue to dance or blankets if it’s going to get a little nippy at night. These touches won’t go unnoticed. 

 

Book a honeymoon

It’s no secret that planning a wedding can be stressful so booking in a honeymoon can make for the most timely break you’ll ever have. Not only is it a special time for you and your partner, but it also helps you both to unwind and come down from the euphoria of your big day. It’s therefore well worth keeping some money aside in your wedding budget to ensure you can afford that all important break. 

 

Get onto those thank you notes 

Brides that leave this for months seriously regret it. It’s one of those things that will just hang over you, so get it sorted swiftly. If you sit down and do this straight after your honeymoon, you’ll still be in wedding mode and brimming full of wedding memories. It’s also when you’ll open your presents to it will be far easier to thank guests for the special gifts they chose for you. 

 

To sum up 

The main thing that rings true when all brides look back on their big day is just remembering to be in the moment and have fun. Whether it rains or shines, your wedding day is one of the most special days of your life so just remember to enjoy every single minute. 

 

The Ultimate Guide to Maid of Honour Duties

Maid of Honour Duties – Before The Wedding

You might think maid of honour duties just include support on the big day and helping to choose a dress. Of course both of those are key roles for any maid of honour, however, there are plenty of other roles you can take on to help your bride.

 

1. Chief of the vision board

A bride has a lot of decisions to make about her wedding. Since it’s not your wedding you can’t make decisions for her, but what you can do is be there to bounce ideas off.

Whether it’s invitations, flowers or colour schemes you need to be the voice of reason and gentle support. You need to help the bride realise what her own vision is and help her put it together.

Now your bride might be really confident and already know everything she wants, if that’s the case then you have an easier job! However, for those brides who aren’t very confident or used to making decisions, you’re going to be the one there supporting them.

 

2. Wedding dress scout

The best thing about being a maid of honour is helping to choose the wedding dress! Whether you go with the bride to one or twenty wedding dress shops you are one of the first people to see her in that white dress.

So advice for wedding dress shopping? Help her look for what she wants if she’s on a budget help her to find a dress that fits that. Whenever she tries a dress on look at how happy she is rather than the style of the dress.

If she’s happy then it’s a good dress, even if you don’t like the style so much. If you don’t think a particular dress suits her, try to say that gently and find a different dress she might like.

 

3. Group leader

As maid of honour, you are the chief bridesmaid. This means helping to make sure the other bridesmaids are organised. So check they all have the right shoes, their dresses all fit and everyone essentially matches.

You are also the point person for organising the hen do. Usually, this is done with the help of both the bride and the bridesmaids (unless it’s a surprise) but you are the main organiser of the event.

Think about the bride. If she’s not into partying then how about something more her speed? Spa days, yoga retreats and craft workshops are all great options for something a little different. Of course, if she loves to party you could always do something relaxing in the day and head out on the town in the evening!

 

4. Emotional support guru

Your bride might have a little wobble or two before the big day. She is under a lot of stress trying to organise everything. Be the person who helps her to feel calm.

Don’t stress her out by planning too much when she’s tired. Be the person who makes her a cup of tea and runs her a bubble bath. If she has a hotel room for the night before the wedding, offer to stay with her and bring her favourite box set and plenty of snacks. The night before the wedding your job is to keep her distracted and stop her from stressing, she needs beauty sleep!

 

Maid of Honour Duties – On the Big Day

1. Emergency support specialist

Now, this is one of the most important things to remember. On the big day, you need to be prepared for as many potential emergencies as possible. You might want to opt for a big handbag and just store it somewhere at the venue when you’re doing the actual ceremony and photos afterwards.

So what do you need? Safety pins and a needle and thread for the bridesmaid dresses are a must. Painkillers, blister plasters, mints and makeup for touching up are great to have. If it’s a sunny day sun cream and cooling spray or a mini fan are godsends. Anything you can think of that the bride of one of the bridesmaids might suddenly need.

 

2. Point of contact

When it comes to the big day often the venue or vendors might have a lot of questions. While the bride is getting ready she doesn’t need the extra stress. So make sure you get yourself ready nice and early so that anyone who shows up with a question you can step up and answer them.

The night before the wedding have the bride talk you through where she wants everything and how she wants the day to run, that way you have all the answers on the day.

 

3. Family wrangler

If you’re lucky, absolutely every member of the bride and groom’s family will be lovely and helpful people. However, most weddings are not quite that relaxed. Often there will be a troublesome family member.

It’s your job to make sure the bride has a brilliant day and is completely unaware of any family problems. That might mean organising lifts and taxis at the end of the night or stopping a family argument in the middle of the wedding. Everyone only needs to be calm and polite for one day, should be easy right?

 

4. Mistress of ceremonies

The maid of honour role does include some work during the actual ceremony. As maid of honour, you walk down the aisle and wait for the bride at the top. When she arrives double check everything is in the right place. She will hand you her bouquet to hold during the ceremony.

You might have extra tasks like reading a poem or story or signing the marriage license as a witness. You can also give a speech during the toasts portion of the evening. Try to tell funny but appropriate stories about the couple and essentially tell the bride how much you love her and how happy you are for them both.

 

We hope you’re excited to help the bride on her journey and support her on the big day. Congratulations on getting chosen to be the maid of honour. If you follow all the advice in this article you should be able to keep your bride calm and help her to make amazing memories. Don’t forget to send her this article when she’s going to be your maid of honour!

To help with the wedding planning, why not take your bride to one of our many wedding fayres across the North West? Find them here.

5 Things Brides Wish They’d Have Done Differently

Planning the perfect wedding is something most brides start from childhood. In the back of your mind somewhere you slowly collect ideas and visions of your perfect day.

In reality perfection is hard to achieve. That doesn’t mean your wedding, much like the partner you choose to marry, won’t be perfect for you. It just means that on the big day there will probably be one or two hitches and problems to solve.

You can plan your day as much as you want but you won’t know how everything is going to actually turn out until the day.

So what can you do to try and prevent regrets after the big day? Like anything, the best thing you can do to prepare yourself is take advice from people with experience.

We’ve spoken to a variety of brides to find out what they wish they had done differently on their big day. We’re giving you the top 5 tips from brides to help you think about the best way to plan your upcoming wedding!


1. Hire a videographer

Having a photographer is standard at most weddings but have you ever thought about a video of your wedding? This was the number one thing brides wish they had thought of before their big day.

Looking through your photos is great but sometimes you wish you could just go back in time to relive the magical moments of your one special day. Now we can’t quite tell you how to do that, but we can do is recommend having a video made so you can watch your wedding day over and over again!

 

2. Be more in charge

It’s your day, so make sure it’s the way you want. Not the way your wedding planner wants. Not the way your mum or mother-in-law wants. This is a day for you and your partner.

If you want to be super traditional or throw all the traditions out of the window then that’s your choice. It’s important not to be a pushover, you need to stand up for the choices which suit you as a couple.

Of course you don’t want to be a bridezilla but you can be assertive without being mean. Just make it clear exactly what you want to vendors, planners and family members. Remember it’s YOUR wedding.

 

3. Prepare anything you want to make yourself in advance

There are lots of touches to a wedding which you can do DIY, from invitations to decorations. If you have opted for anything which you’re planning on making yourself make sure you do this a long, long, long way before your wedding! The weeks before your big day are bound to be stressful enough so anything you can do in advance, do it!

 

4. Bring supplies for comfort and touch ups

Most brides get ready in the morning and then that’s it. That’s what they wear for the rest of the day. When you think about it your lipstick is going to come off, your feet are going to hurt and you might need to freshen up.

So, make sure one of your bridesmaids has extra supplies to touch up your look. Whether that’s another lipstick, more mascara or comfortable shoes. You want to be comfortable and also look good in the photos during the reception. Baby wipes and deodorant are also lifesavers!

 

5. Be present

There’s so much to worry about when you’re planning a wedding. On the big day, however, a lot of brides regret not letting go and just enjoying themselves. If things aren’t running 100% on time or according to plan, accept that’s ok.

It’s your day, you should have fun! Being in the moment will help you to focus on your beautiful wedding rather than unimportant details. If there are issues, you can deal with them calmly and try to get into a mindset of ‘not everything needs to be perfect’. If you spend the whole day stressing you won’t have nice memories in the same way as if you just choose to just be present in the moment.


To sum up 

When you read through this list, none of these are major problems. Just little things that thinking back brides would change. Take their advice. Or don’t (remember number 2 – be in charge!).

We hope that you have a brilliant wedding day, without any regrets. Let us know in the comments if you liked these tips and any advice you’ve had from previous brides!