Planning the perfect wedding is something most brides start from childhood. In the back of your mind somewhere you slowly collect ideas and visions of your perfect day.
In reality perfection is hard to achieve. That doesn’t mean your wedding, much like the partner you choose to marry, won’t be perfect for you. It just means that on the big day there will probably be one or two hitches and problems to solve.
You can plan your day as much as you want but you won’t know how everything is going to actually turn out until the day.
So what can you do to try and prevent regrets after the big day? Like anything, the best thing you can do to prepare yourself is take advice from people with experience.
We’ve spoken to a variety of brides to find out what they wish they had done differently on their big day. We’re giving you the top 5 tips from brides to help you think about the best way to plan your upcoming wedding!
1. Hire a videographer
Having a photographer is standard at most weddings but have you ever thought about a video of your wedding? This was the number one thing brides wish they had thought of before their big day.
Looking through your photos is great but sometimes you wish you could just go back in time to relive the magical moments of your one special day. Now we can’t quite tell you how to do that, but we can do is recommend having a video made so you can watch your wedding day over and over again!
2. Be more in charge
It’s your day, so make sure it’s the way you want. Not the way your wedding planner wants. Not the way your mum or mother-in-law wants. This is a day for you and your partner.
If you want to be super traditional or throw all the traditions out of the window then that’s your choice. It’s important not to be a pushover, you need to stand up for the choices which suit you as a couple.
Of course you don’t want to be a bridezilla but you can be assertive without being mean. Just make it clear exactly what you want to vendors, planners and family members. Remember it’s YOUR wedding.
3. Prepare anything you want to make yourself in advance
There are lots of touches to a wedding which you can do DIY, from invitations to decorations. If you have opted for anything which you’re planning on making yourself make sure you do this a long, long, long way before your wedding! The weeks before your big day are bound to be stressful enough so anything you can do in advance, do it!
4. Bring supplies for comfort and touch ups
Most brides get ready in the morning and then that’s it. That’s what they wear for the rest of the day. When you think about it your lipstick is going to come off, your feet are going to hurt and you might need to freshen up.
So, make sure one of your bridesmaids has extra supplies to touch up your look. Whether that’s another lipstick, more mascara or comfortable shoes. You want to be comfortable and also look good in the photos during the reception. Baby wipes and deodorant are also lifesavers!
5. Be present
There’s so much to worry about when you’re planning a wedding. On the big day, however, a lot of brides regret not letting go and just enjoying themselves. If things aren’t running 100% on time or according to plan, accept that’s ok.
It’s your day, you should have fun! Being in the moment will help you to focus on your beautiful wedding rather than unimportant details. If there are issues, you can deal with them calmly and try to get into a mindset of ‘not everything needs to be perfect’. If you spend the whole day stressing you won’t have nice memories in the same way as if you just choose to just be present in the moment.
To sum up
When you read through this list, none of these are major problems. Just little things that thinking back brides would change. Take their advice. Or don’t (remember number 2 – be in charge!).
We hope that you have a brilliant wedding day, without any regrets. Let us know in the comments if you liked these tips and any advice you’ve had from previous brides!